celebrate love life and self on vday

The onset of February has started to stir the creative fancy of the romantically involved. While one person schemes the sweetest and exclusive date of a lifetime, the other struggles on how to forget what is missing and how to survive the day without feeling alone and left out. Valentine’s Day, slathered in all its commercial glory, has become very challenging for the unattached. That should not be the case because love, after all, is for the delight of everyone.

Valentine’s Day is not only falling in love romantically. It is also falling in love to friendship, to family, to life, and most, falling in love to your SELF! And if you are single and this thought has not crossed your mind yet, remember that being single is a state of being and not a condition of unhappiness and discontent.

There is more beyond the stereotyped romanticism of Valentine’s Day, more than the mandatory flowers, the suave and witty discourse over wine and candle-lit dinner, the gourmet chocolates especially delivered, the love-conquers-all moments and the belief that romantic relationships is more ultimate over others. We have seen and done them all, and in a way have become utterly predictable and costly.

If you don’t have a partner to spend the special occasion with, you could breeze through V-day by celebrating through reflections; to remind how special and unique you are and through gratitude; to acknowledge the abundance you partake everyday. Another way to give the holiday a meaningful purpose is to reach out to friends and family you have long forgotten to say hello or perhaps make new friends, connect with community and set aside time for those who needs company. And if the time is right or if you feel you are prepared, perhaps consider the art of forgiving those who have wronged you and ask the same from those you have hurt. Doing this is a perfect way to genuinely imbibe love on Valentine’s Day.

No matter what other people think about how you celebrate, the fact is that you are crafting it as yours! For singles out there, Valentine’s Day remains a great occasion and not something to feel frustrated about. And how you choose to rejoice is entirely up to you.  May you all find the lovely significance that Valentine’s Day brings!